Dealing with premature ejaculation can be a real killer in any relationship but the good news is that with the right advice you can learn how to last longer in bed and get your love life back on track.
I spoke to Dan Becket, the Author of the top-selling premature ejaculation training book Ejaculation Freedom. He says the best way to increase your lasting time in bed is to treat your sexual performance as something that can be developed and improved by using the correct techniques and doing some training. Dan points out that training to last longer in bed is really not much different to how you would train to improve at a sport. He says most guys who tend to ejaculate prematurely do not have anything wrong with them. They just have never been taught all the skills and techniques a guy needs to know to be able to control the ejaculatory system.
While learning all of these many skills will take a few weeks to master completely, here are 5 great ways to help you start lasting longer in bed right away. Why not put them into action tonight!
Get Your Breathing Right
This is number one for good reason, and that’s because is dead easy to do and it can start helping you straight away. The truth is most guys who have a hard time lasting bed don’t breath correctly so it’s important to get this right.
Don’t forget – you should start this premature ejaculation breathing technique before you have begun intercourse otherwise it can be too late. Here’s what to do:
- Breath in steadily but deeply for 10 – 12 seconds
- Hold for just a moment – no longer than 2 seconds
- Exhale steadily for 12 to 15 seconds
And it’s as simple as that. While you are breathing out, try to imagine your whole body relaxing as all the stress and tension is being released from your body
Start with the right position
For guys who have a hard time lasting in bed the initial two minutes on intercourse are the real danger time. After this initial period, the odds of you being able to last longer start to increase rapidly.
That’s why you should always start with a position you feel comfortable with to give you a chance to get used to the sexual sensation allowing you to work your way into it.
All guys a different in the way each position stimulates them but as a general rule, the positions where you use your core muscles less are better for lasting such as were you lying on your back or side.
Then one you have got used to the feeling you can switch to some other positions.
Get in the zone
You may have heard of the distraction technique before, or even tried it yourself by trying to think of anything but sex to try and decrease your arousal. Well, this method is the opposite of that and it works a lot better. It’s all about getting in the zone
Here’s what you do – As sex begins you should start really zoning into everything you are feeling, seeing hearing and touching. Make sure you are caressing her all over and really focus in on the way her body feels as you move your hands around. Notice the way the sheets feel on your skin, the way her hair feels as it brushes your face… I’m talking about everything here.
What this will do if dome correctly is two very important things. Firstly it will stop you only thinking about the sensation on your penis which will reduce some of the perceived hypersensitivity there, and secondly, it will make sure your mind is keyed in and relaxed. The worst thing you can do during sex is to start thinking about what will happen if you can’t last in bed so this will help prevent the chances of that.
You partner will also notice how tuned in you are and she will absolutely love it
Get your grind on
More grinding and less thrusting is the name of the game and if you do it correctly it will not only elevate some of the sensations but also stimulate your partner more thereby increasing the chances that you will be able to bring her to orgasm.
Remember than for just about all women, the climax is reached not by you just pumping away for hours, but by pressure applied to her clitoris, so it’s important to use grinding style position quite a lot no matter who you are.
Start Training With A Structured Program
The methods I’ve shown you above will surely help add a few minutes to your lasting time, but by completing a full program and doing a little training just about any guy can develop total ejaculation control. We have talked about Dan Becket on this site before. His book is an absolute bible on how to last longer in bed. It’s called Ejaculation Freedom and it a great place to start your journey towards full ejaculation control.
By the way, in my next post, I’ll be taking a look at some emergency or cool down methods that you can do to turn back the clock when you feel you are approaching the point of no return. It’ll be a must-read so make sure to come back soon to check it out.