How To Talk To Your Partner About Premature Ejaculation
It’s hard to say who is affected by premature ejaculation the most between the male and female within a relationship. On the one hand, you have the woman who will no doubt be frustrated at the lack of sexual frustration she is receiving which can often lead to further issues and frustrations down the track.
Whilst on the other hand you have the guy in the relationship that will no doubt be aware of his shortcomings in bed yet he will often be too embarrassed to even talk about it. I mean when it comes to things that men don’t want to be known as premature ejaculator would have to be right up there near the top of the list.
Talking About Premature Ejaculation Requires Self Confidence
The man will often lose a great deal of self-confidence and begin to think of himself as inadequate as he fails, again and again, to deliver the goods in bed. In longer-term relationships, this doubt can manifest into suspicions that his partner may be unfaithful to satisfy her need.
So as you can see. Premature ejaculation can really crush a guy. But it doesn’t have to play out this way because by using some modern natural methods to help you learn how to last longer in bed, guys can see some fantastic improvements in this area.
The First Step Is The hardest
The key is to take that first step however. And for a guy that is often quite difficult. He will often have no one to talk to about it. I mean most guys would feel reluctant to even talk about their premature ejaculation problems with their best mate, let alone their doctor or other specialist.
Most guys now days will turn to the internet as their primary source of information. Whilst this saves guys from the embarrassment of having to talk to anyone face to face we still run into further problems. And that is the bad quality of information floating around the internet on the topic of how to last longer in bed and premature ejaculation.
This information fails us for two distinct reasons. On one hand you have the large medical websites who try to paint premature ejaculation as some kind of disease or illness. They will talk about ‘premature ejaculation treatments’ or possible medication without acknowledging PE for what it truly is. It’s a perfectly normal state – In all but a tiny percent of instances PE is nothing more than a lack of bodily knowledge, skills and experience.
Understanding Is Everything
Thinking of premature ejaculation as in illness is kind of like thinking of a man who can’t swim as having an illness. Of course that’s ridiculous. There’s a good reason that he can’t swim which is that he has never been taught. Well, in reality – it’s exactly no different for a guy who is struggling to last in bed – he doesn’t have some kind of condition or disease, he has simple never picked up on his own or been taught many of the skills required to maintain ejaculatory control during sex. And truth be told – there’s a lot to learn so it’s no wonder so many guys have a hard time picking it up without help.
This leads us to the other kind of problematic information you’re bound to find online when looking for assistance improving lasting time. It’s the amount of very poor advice based on wives tales, incorrect assumptions and knowledge probably attained from B grade comedies.
I mean try goggling “how to last longer in bed” and have a look at the results on the first page. With the exception of a site for Adam Vance’s excellent program on how to last longer in bed, every single result list rubbishy methods to improve lasting time like ‘think disgusting thoughts’, ‘pinch yourself during sex’ and ‘only insert the tip of your member’. Not really much help is it?
References
- https://moh-it.pure.elsevier.com/en/publica
- tions/prevalence-of-premature-ejaculation-a-global-and-regional-perspec
- https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1745-7262.2008.00369.x
- https://www.dovepress.com/a-randomized-study-examining-the-effect-of-3-ssri-on-premature-ejacula-peer-reviewed-fulltext-article-TCRM
- https://www.proquest.com/openview/e23c55590360a92a7bd7ca4bec31bec4/1?pq-origsite=gscholar&cbl=33668
- https://acuresearchbank.acu.edu.au/item/8949v/an-update-of-the-international-society-of-sexual-medicine-s-guidelines-for-the-diagnosis-and-treatment-of-premature-ejaculation-pe
- https://www.narcis.nl/publication/RecordID/oai:dspace.library.uu.nl:1874%2F308634
- https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/10688090/
Wayne Fitz is an incredibly handsome and brilliant man who has been given permission by his editor to write his own bio. He writes articles on health and relationships and is a qualified personal trainer and weight loss coach. He is also starting to feel a bit strange writing about himself in the 3rd person.
